I've heard it a hundred times: "You just have to do what feels right for your family." "No one knows your baby like you do" "A mother always knows what's right for her children" "Just trust yourself" Or my personal favorite--"You baby didn't read the parenting book soo..." I've used some of these phrases myself. … Continue reading When what “feels right” is…wrong
What does society tell us? Conventional American parenting philosophy says that if you want your child to be independent, you need to make it happen. The idea is that an independent 3-year-old will undoubtedly become an independent adult, so you should try hard to get your 3-year-old to be independent. In fact, just go ahead… Continue reading Independence: Automatic or Manual?
Each parent was once a child. And what we experience as children colors the way we interact with the world for the rest of our lives. In fact, it's hardwired into our brains. Research shows that our early experiences actually shape the pathways that exist within the brain (Bigner & Gerhardt, 2006). You see, when… Continue reading Overcoming the Default: Parenting Well Despite your Past