I had an interesting discussion with a friend recently. She's not a parent yet but has had a lot of experience with young children anyway. I shared with her one of my deep-set insecurities: "What if my kids never learn to obey God?" One of the main focal points for people on the opposite side… Continue reading Why I like a little “disobedience”
"Yeah you're a good mom; you're so patient with him." "I could never be that patient with a toddler!" "I don't really like kids because I'm just not that much of a patient person." "You're a preschool teacher?! Wow you must be SO patient!" They mean well, they really do. They're trying to encourage us,… Continue reading Why I’m purposefully NOT a patient parent
What we say "Do you understand? Ok, now can Mommy have a hug? Good boy, go ahead and play." "Can you say sorry? Ok, now can you give our friend a hug?" "Go give Grandpa a hug, now." "I'm sorry, buddy. Can I get a hug?" What we mean "Will you stop being mad at… Continue reading Why I never ask for hugs from my kids
There are, literally, hundreds of ways to "discipline" a child. I plan to write about many of them. But before I do, let me write about a recent concept I've come across that will come alongside whatever form of discipline you choose and will undoubtedly benefit your child. It's called "tying heartstrings", and it resonated… Continue reading What Your Discipline is Missing
I've heard it a hundred times: "You just have to do what feels right for your family." "No one knows your baby like you do" "A mother always knows what's right for her children" "Just trust yourself" Or my personal favorite--"You baby didn't read the parenting book soo..." I've used some of these phrases myself. … Continue reading When what “feels right” is…wrong
What does society tell us? Conventional American parenting philosophy says that if you want your child to be independent, you need to make it happen. The idea is that an independent 3-year-old will undoubtedly become an independent adult, so you should try hard to get your 3-year-old to be independent. In fact, just go ahead… Continue reading Independence: Automatic or Manual?
Each parent was once a child. And what we experience as children colors the way we interact with the world for the rest of our lives. In fact, it's hardwired into our brains. Research shows that our early experiences actually shape the pathways that exist within the brain (Bigner & Gerhardt, 2006). You see, when… Continue reading Overcoming the Default: Parenting Well Despite your Past