Independence: Automatic or Manual?

What does society tell us? Conventional American parenting philosophy says that if you want your child to be independent, you need to make it happen.  The idea is that an independent 3-year-old will undoubtedly become an independent adult, so you should try hard to get your 3-year-old to be independent.  In fact, just go ahead… Continue reading Independence: Automatic or Manual?

Overcoming the Default: Parenting Well Despite the Past

Define "default setting" Each parent was once a child.  And what we experience as children colors the way we interact with the world for the rest of our lives.  In fact, it's hardwired into our brains. Research shows that our early experiences actually shape the pathways that exist within the brain (Bigner & Gerhardt, 2006). … Continue reading Overcoming the Default: Parenting Well Despite the Past

Are the East and the West Really That Far Apart?

I'm starting a new parenting book today.  It's a bit different from the books I've read so far, which are mostly research-based, advice-giving books.  This one aims to change your whole parenting mindset.  The author wants you to see yourself as an ambassador of God to your children, rather than the owner of them; hence,… Continue reading Are the East and the West Really That Far Apart?