What we say "Do you understand? Ok, now can Mommy have a hug? Good boy, go ahead and play." "Can you say sorry? Ok, now can you give our friend a hug?" "Go give Grandpa a hug, now." "I'm sorry, buddy. Can I get a hug?" What we mean "Will you stop being mad at… Continue reading Why I never ask for hugs from my kids
There are, literally, hundreds of ways to "discipline" a child. I plan to write about many of them. But before I do, let me write about a recent concept I've come across that will come alongside whatever form of discipline you choose and will undoubtedly benefit your child. It's called "tying heartstrings", and it resonated… Continue reading What Your Discipline is Missing
I've heard it a hundred times: "You just have to do what feels right for your family." Or some variation... "No one knows your baby like you do" "A mother always knows what's right for her children" "Just trust yourself" Or my personal favorite--"You baby didn't read the parenting book soo..." I've used some of… Continue reading When what “feels right” is…wrong
What does society tell us? Conventional American parenting philosophy says that if you want your child to be independent, you need to make it happen. The idea is that an independent 3-year-old will undoubtedly become an independent adult, so you should try hard to get your 3-year-old to be independent. In fact, just go ahead… Continue reading Independence: Automatic or Manual?
Define "default setting" Each parent was once a child. And what we experience as children colors the way we interact with the world for the rest of our lives. In fact, it's hardwired into our brains. Research shows that our early experiences actually shape the pathways that exist within the brain (Bigner & Gerhardt, 2006). … Continue reading Overcoming the Default: Parenting Well Despite the Past
I want to write a little bit about access. This is a spiritual concept that has massive applications to parenting. I'll admit, I'm not feeling quite as inspired as I was last week. Good thing there's no lack in Christ! Hopefully this post will still bless all of you. 🙂 This will be at least… Continue reading No Lack in Access
I'm starting a new parenting book today. It's a bit different from the books I've read so far, which are mostly research-based, advice-giving books. This one aims to change your whole parenting mindset. The author wants you to see yourself as an ambassador of God to your children, rather than the owner of them; hence,… Continue reading Are the East and the West Really That Far Apart?